if you not also making a fool of yourself, you are not qualified to judge me
Years ago, when I was starting doing live gigs, an artist friend of mine said to me
“If you want to succeed, you got to be prepared to also get up there and make a full of yourself “
by Ben Christophers
This stuck with me.
Of course, no one is born perfect. no matter how much you rehearse something, some things we only learn by doing. by putting ourself’s out there, by showing our true selves to others, by risking being disliked, judged and laughed at.
And if that happens, so what? It’s not like being a doctor, where making a mistake could put someone’s life at risk. So why worry about what others think? No one achieved mastery without facing failures and learning from them.
Recently I was watching a talk by Brene Brown who reminded me of my friends' quote:
“If you not in the arena, also getting your ass kicked, I am not interested in your feedback”
“The kind of feedback you get from people who are in the arena in their life’s is very different to the kind of feedback you get from people who have made a full-time career out of cheap seating “
by Brene Brown
and thank Brene for letting me know the quote by Theodore Roosevelt
"It's not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or when the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions and spends himself in a worth cause; who at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement; and who at the worst if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory or defeat."
by Theodore Roosevelt
Just as these quotes made their way to my life I would like to continue to spread that thought to others, who might also need a reminder... : )